The Story You're Telling Yourself

On the first podcast episode of Finding Her: Unapologetically, I said something that might have stung a little:

“Stop being the goddamn story that keeps you in victim mode.”

Not because your pain isn’t real.Not because what happened didn’t matter.But because at some point, the story stops protecting you… and starts defining you.

Most of us are not stuck because of our circumstances.We’re stuck because of the narrative we’ve wrapped around them.

The story becomes identity.The identity becomes behavior.The behavior becomes the life. And we never stop to ask:

Is this even mine?

On the podcast, I talked about the difference between what happened… and the meaning we gave it.

The event is neutral.The interpretation becomes the story. And if you’re ready to move forward — if you’re ready to upgrade — you have to be willing to look at the script you’ve been living by.

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So let’s do that.

Take your journal. Slow down. Answer honestly.

15 Journal Prompts to Rewrite the Story You’re Telling Yourself

Part 1: Awareness — What Story Am I Living?

1. What story do I repeat most often about my life right now?

2. When did I first start believing this narrative?

3. Who influenced or reinforced this belief?

4. What emotion is most attached to this story?

5. Where do I feel this story in my body?

On the podcast, I shared how we often stay loyal to stories because they feel familiar — not because they’re true. Familiarity feels like safety.But safety and alignment are not the same thing.

Part 2: Victim Mode vs Author Mode

6. In what ways have I identified as “the one this always happens to”?

7. How has this story protected me?

8. How has this story limited me?

9. Who would I disappoint if I stopped believing this narrative?

10. What would shift if I took full authorship over this area of my life?

In Episode 1, I also shared something simple but symbolic.

I had this robe.Old. Worn. Comfortable.It was in every picture, every morning, every memory.Even my kids told me to get rid of it. One day I realized:That robe wasn’t just fabric.It was a version of me. And if I was upgrading my life, I couldn’t keep wrapping myself in an outdated identity. Sometimes rewriting your story looks dramatic.Sometimes it’s just letting go of the robe.

Part 3: The Upgrade

11. Who would I be without this story?

12. What identity am I stepping into now?

13. What am I holding onto that represents an older version of me?

14. What is one small decision I can make this week that reflects my upgraded self?

15. If I fully trusted myself, what would I choose next?

You don’t need to burn your life down. You just need to stop being loyal to a script that no longer fits. The story you were given isn’t the story you have to keep.

And if this resonated, I go deeper into this conversation in Episode 1 of Finding Her: Unapologetically, where we unpack victim mode, identity shifts, and what it really means to take authorship over your life. You are not broken.You are becoming. And you get to decide what comes next.